Comments on: The Secret of Making People Like You https://www.workyouenjoy.com/the-secret-of-making-people-like-you/ Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:26:00 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 By: Adam Rico https://www.workyouenjoy.com/the-secret-of-making-people-like-you/#comment-102 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:26:00 +0000 http://www.workyouenjoy.com/?p=1092#comment-102 In reply to Josh.

Josh,
I think all of us can identify with your experience. Anyone who has engaged in a relationship with another human being will be disappointed and/or hurt at one point or another. We are imperfect and as such our relationships are imperfect. However, I had a mentor of mine once say that it’s interesting how we are most hurt by other people, yet we are also greatly healed by other people. Unfortunately we have to sometimes experience the former on the way to the latter. What we focus on tends to get larger, so I hope you have opportunities to focus on the healing relationships in your life. Thanks for your heartfelt comment Josh.

]]> By: Josh https://www.workyouenjoy.com/the-secret-of-making-people-like-you/#comment-101 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 19:21:00 +0000 http://www.workyouenjoy.com/?p=1092#comment-101 Adam, I am someone that struggles with friendships. I do not throw out the word friendship lightly and that could be why I really do not have many. If I am to consider someone a friend there must be a mutual relationship. A friend is more to me than just someone who shows up once a month or whatever. Anyway, at one point in my life I was always monitoring what I said and what I did to make sure others around me felt comfortable and had all of their needs met. After living life that way for awhile I noticed that MOST of the people I was with (no matter what I do) had no interest in putting themselves in my shoes. I feel that in my life there has been a constant expectation of me to adjust to all of their needs, but a refusal to meet me where I need to be met.

I have been ditched, lied to, manipulated, abused so many times I can hardly keep track. In my experience MOST people are so unaware and so into themselves that there is no possible way they could see something from my perspective.

I know that my personality type is WAAAAAY more emotional than most others and I continue to work on my reactions to things, but it seems that I am rarely allowed the grace I need to get through something without being criticized, mocked or ignored.

Jaded? Heck yeah. Totally.

The victim? Yep, I am that too. Really good at this one actually.

However, I am incredibly aware of myself and those around me. Sometimes it makes relationships really hard. SOMETIMES I wish I was ignorant to what is actually going on around me. I might have more friends, but alas they would probably be shallow and pointless.

]]> By: Adam Rico https://www.workyouenjoy.com/the-secret-of-making-people-like-you/#comment-100 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 04:15:00 +0000 http://www.workyouenjoy.com/?p=1092#comment-100 In reply to Dan Black.

Yes, Dan emotional intelligence is absolutely key to becoming more self-aware. Those who can empathize and relate to the emotions of others are better able to influence them in a positive way. Your blog post was great!

]]> By: Dan Black https://www.workyouenjoy.com/the-secret-of-making-people-like-you/#comment-99 Thu, 23 Aug 2012 03:55:00 +0000 http://www.workyouenjoy.com/?p=1092#comment-99 I think if you observe others you can find those who are self-aware and those who are not. I think a important aspect in connecting and relating with others is to have and develop emotional intelligence. I recently wrote about how developing EI can help a leader lead better. Here is the post if anyone wants to read it, http://danblackonleadership.info/archives/1849

Great post!

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